Over at Cocks & Dolls, Dolly has decided to prioritize her "Betty" side, after enjoying her "Veronica" nature. And it got me thinking about women, something I do a lot in my spare time these days.
I'm not sure if the Archie comix were as popular in Canada as they were in the U.S. but, to summarize their differences for the purpose of discussion, Veronica is the whore and Betty is the nice girl. Oh, and they're both hot, in their own way.
I posted the following as a comment to Dolly's post but I'm going to copy it here because I thought you guys might be interested as well. Its been edited slightly for clarity.
My thinking is: all females are both Betty and Veronica. She'll be Betty for awhile, and she will seek Veronica. She'll be Veronica for awhile, and Betty is on deck. And all of this is as it should be.
If you want to keep a female around you, never stop seducing her. Seduction is a lifelong project - don't think once you marry a female the courtship stops. Or, put another way, if you do stop the courtship after you're married, don't be surprised when she finds something better.
I think the #1 reason marriages fail is because couples "take each other for granted" - which means to me that at least one party falsely assumes that seduction is no longer a necessary component of the relationship.
I also suspect that the belief in some abstract concept called "love" is basically laziness. A slovenly and disrespectful approach to the Other, because it places faith in an imaginary force that will allow both parties to simply "be" and be happy.
Guess what? There's no such thing.
Personally, I feel the same way about "Love" that I do about many conceptions of "God". Afraid of death? Here, have a beautiful afterlife. Afraid of your own dark impulses? Here, have an imaginary Hell to keep you in line. Feeling unloved? Here, have a phony idol that will love you no matter how many times you fuck up.
Here's a thought, with apologies to Heidegger: Being is death; only Becoming is life. Where there is no struggle between the sexes, there is no dynamic, and the erotic loses its ability to manifest. Desire in action is the only means available by which we get the girl, seduce the man, change our lives, or change the world. This eternal, Natural project is the one for which we were designed - so my plan is to enjoy it in the little time we all have left.